The garden must be prepared in the soul first
or else it will not flourish.
-English Gardening Proverb
There used to be a poster in Mr. Salmon's class that read, "Spring is when the boys start to notice what the girls have been waiting for all winter!" Forever and ever, I have wondered about love and the existence of a soul mate. Mom would ruin things by saying love was a state of mind. No, it was a good looking man who drove fast with a slightly bigger nose, beautiful voice and soft lips, that was love. It was getting your girlfriends together on a new moon to stare into a mirror until the image of your future husband appeared. We were too scared to wait for the results so we'd turn to herbs. Sleeping with honeysuckle and lavender was said to promote dreams of your soul mate while white rose petals brought pure love. Never were girls to try on their mother's wedding rings for fear of becoming old maids. My brother knew the tricks and chased us, trying to sweep the tops of our feet with a broom while teasing that he had a parrot in the house! Bad omens should be taken seriously with concerns of the heart.
Those friends and I are now 32 years married but Debbie still calls for matchmaking advice. "Where is he?" she asks while I cut the deck three times and choose ten cards. Her ring startles me. "Why are you wearing a ring on your left hand?" I ask. "Oh, I don't know" she says. My mom's words ring true! Love is a state of mind and Debbie's mind is still thinking about her failed marriage and the hurt it has caused her. So she wears a fake wedding ring that sends a huge message of unavailability. She had a fear of removing the ring and said she would do it later.
Now for the good news! Arielle Ford, author and Conscious Living guest (www.talkshoe.com)
has a new book called, "The Soulmate Connection" (www.soulmatesecret.com)
and she tells us to get a pen and paper. Write down what you desire in a mate, his eye color, will he or she live close, everything, just write! Sound too easy to be true? It works and age has no rule. A woman in her eighties found her second soulmate through this technique. I loved that she added some magic by placing the words in a jar and placing them outside during a new moon. If you look on her website, you will see a picture of her manifested soulmate. When they met, he said he felt as though he had known her already. Oh, love, how sweet it is.
Debbie and I are going out in a couple of days, think I'll buy her a journal with a pretty pen. I'll probably throw in a pinch of basil that encourages loving feelings and faithfulness for old times sake and good measure!
"The Universe is full of magical things
patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper."